You have a choice to how you want to handle and respond to your stress. Your choices, being optimistic and expecting great things to happen in every situation, will support your belief system- and is called the relaxation response.
In the children’s book “Who Moved My Cheese- An Amazing Story to Change and Winning by Spencer Johnson, four friends- Hem & Haw, Stiff and Scurry lived at a maze.
It really doesn’t matter what you do, which discipline you chose, or what your intention. At this point someone will go online and fight with you about it. Someone will deceive people about your character. Someone will tell the opposite story of what happened when they were your client.
People are stressed in a lot of areas right now. The pace of change has more speed than our nervous systems ability to keep up. Even if we stay ahead of the changes and waves, the ability to move forward, to feel progress, to believe effort is worth it requires some positive evidence in our lives.
How many of you have noticed that when you grow and change for the better your family and or friends can fight it all the way because of simple fear of the unknown?
People are always asking how to prevent self sabotage in life after making changes. Well, a frequent truth is that often the culprit that sabotages people is actually never creating an adult strategy for social situations, and relationships that is elegant and mature.
Anchors can be useful for the future or un-useful. An anchor is a sound, sight, taste, touch or smell that happens when you are in a certain emotional state of mind or mood. The more unique the sensory experience and the more intense the emotion the more likely that the trigger of the emotion will be repeated when the trigger happens in the future.
People become used to a certain set of skills. They also become used to a specific speed of actions in their lives. The intensity of effort also is a familiar factor. When their situation changes, perhaps they have a health issue, it becomes very difficult for them to feel good about continuing to move forward at the comfortable intensity and speed given their new circumstance.
As many of you know, I do professional and personal coaching for a variety of people. In the last week I have seen a shocking number of normally solid and stable people that I coach experiencing extreme emotions and what looks like overwhelm.