Them Vs Self (You, Your, Yours)
Can you validate that you understand someone’s comments without making a similar story or enter the conversation from your past? This is a big step in the skill of “You, your, yours” rather than “I, me, my”. Even in regular conversation remember that the person who talks the least wins. This becomes very important when going back to the clinic in order to use metaphors and 3rd party stories as a habit.
When you tell a story about yourself to validate a point someone made, how fast do you get it back to about them rather than self?
This skill is essential. Some will love getting to know your stories, but you are giving away the mystery and the leverage whenever self revelation is taking place.